I believe that if you believe something will come true it will.... It may take a while, but, it will. The trick to all this is being consistent. Having focus on your goals and dreams. Have the vision of what you want you life to be firmly planted in your head. I struggle with this. There are so many "factors". Maybe "factors" is the wrong word here, but I can't think of another. There always seems to be something that might postpone or complicate "the dream". For example, the people in your life. Now, it is true, some people have more gravity than others... but.... is that a valid argument for postponing doing what you would really like to do. Is it so bad to "just do it" ? (forgive me for sounding like a commercial). Sometimes I think I set myself up to not reach my dreams. I put road blocks in my own way. It is all fear based.... You didn't think I am that naïve, did you? I know what I do.... the question is why? What am I afraid of? Is it fear? Hell, I don't know. What I do know is this.... If this opportunity pans out, I have to "woman up" and take it. I have to practice what I preach... and I preach a lot. Here are some examples?
'What is the worst that can happen, you might actually find out you were happy all along?'
or
'Life is short.... what are you waiting for?'
or
'Be a verb!'
Ugh..... it is so easy to give good, solid advice to everyone else.....
Anyway.... I am here, I am praying for some shoring up... some encouragement.... a push to do something that might not seem like the best for someone else... and may just set me free to be me.
Wish us luck!
Tuesday, July 1, 2014
Tuesday, February 18, 2014
Old Friends......
I am very blessed to have old friends. Now, I don't mean THEY are old, or I am (perish the thought!), you see..... I mean they have been with me, we have been together since we were kids, or get the fast track Old Friend status due to surviving a crisis. I am sure there are advantages to living a life that you move around a lot. I, however, have lived in my town my entire life, with the exception of living in central Wisconsin for about one year.
When you have old friends you have a level of familiarity that just doesn't happen overnight. You "talk" about "things"... You have no pressure to do anything you don't want to, because they understand, but at the same time would do anything to be sure they are taken care of and happy. It is like planted a baby tree in your yard. You watch the tree, water it, feed it, love it, strap it down in storms... eventually sit under it for shade from the hot sun. Sometimes you may even decorate it for Christmas or the other holidays. I feel like that tree becomes part of the family... part of the landscape of your life. As are old friends. Because those friends have families, they become an important part of your life too. Your family grows... by choice. My definition of family has always been "the more the merrier" so it was a pretty easy transition for me when I found my Birth Mom and my amazing brothers and sister and their kiddos and my wonderful Step Dad. I am a part of many families.
The word family has lots of definitions for me. I don't believe the "Blood is Thicker than Water". I believe love is impenetrable and you have the ability to love so much and so many with so much of yourself. And I do.
I experienced something unexpected while talking with one of my dear old friends, the oldest friend I have... We met when we were 12. I love her and she has grown into a part of me. We are a part of eachother. We sat and talked in her truck on a very snowy night, in the parking lot of the hospital where her Dad was in intensive care. I watched her and listened to her... just listened... offered an affirmation now and then... but mostly listened. Also, I noticed her getting a bit older. This is a compliment. She is more beautiful than she was when 20. I saw her face and how expressive it was and how much she was hurting and frustrating. Her eyes grew dark as she described how she felt. Then I saw her soften and her eyes brighten as she told me how she was at peace knowing her Dad would soon be painless and free. All the while, I was looking at her knowing how lucky I was to be the one listening and sharing this with her. You see, being old friends means sharing IT ALL... the good the bad...
I, recently, have shared the loss of several friends' parents. Some, I have even presided at their funerals. I loved these people. They helped me grow up. They were, sort of, my parents too.
We lost my girl friends Dad last night. She texted me, then we tried to call eachother at the same time... and then finally speaking. She talked, I listened and we will go through this, just like we have gone through other things - together. And I am so thankful for that.
I am also thankful for the people who love me for me and nothing more. Who stick by me through thick and thin and expect me to be nothing but me. Because, after all, that is all any of us can ever be.
These are the thoughts in my head this today...
xo
Julie
When you have old friends you have a level of familiarity that just doesn't happen overnight. You "talk" about "things"... You have no pressure to do anything you don't want to, because they understand, but at the same time would do anything to be sure they are taken care of and happy. It is like planted a baby tree in your yard. You watch the tree, water it, feed it, love it, strap it down in storms... eventually sit under it for shade from the hot sun. Sometimes you may even decorate it for Christmas or the other holidays. I feel like that tree becomes part of the family... part of the landscape of your life. As are old friends. Because those friends have families, they become an important part of your life too. Your family grows... by choice. My definition of family has always been "the more the merrier" so it was a pretty easy transition for me when I found my Birth Mom and my amazing brothers and sister and their kiddos and my wonderful Step Dad. I am a part of many families.
The word family has lots of definitions for me. I don't believe the "Blood is Thicker than Water". I believe love is impenetrable and you have the ability to love so much and so many with so much of yourself. And I do.
I experienced something unexpected while talking with one of my dear old friends, the oldest friend I have... We met when we were 12. I love her and she has grown into a part of me. We are a part of eachother. We sat and talked in her truck on a very snowy night, in the parking lot of the hospital where her Dad was in intensive care. I watched her and listened to her... just listened... offered an affirmation now and then... but mostly listened. Also, I noticed her getting a bit older. This is a compliment. She is more beautiful than she was when 20. I saw her face and how expressive it was and how much she was hurting and frustrating. Her eyes grew dark as she described how she felt. Then I saw her soften and her eyes brighten as she told me how she was at peace knowing her Dad would soon be painless and free. All the while, I was looking at her knowing how lucky I was to be the one listening and sharing this with her. You see, being old friends means sharing IT ALL... the good the bad...
I, recently, have shared the loss of several friends' parents. Some, I have even presided at their funerals. I loved these people. They helped me grow up. They were, sort of, my parents too.
We lost my girl friends Dad last night. She texted me, then we tried to call eachother at the same time... and then finally speaking. She talked, I listened and we will go through this, just like we have gone through other things - together. And I am so thankful for that.
I am also thankful for the people who love me for me and nothing more. Who stick by me through thick and thin and expect me to be nothing but me. Because, after all, that is all any of us can ever be.
These are the thoughts in my head this today...
xo
Julie
Monday, February 17, 2014
8 Weddings and a Funeral...
I have lots of "Jobs". I am a coffee shop, art gallery, gift shop owner, I am an artist and I am also an ordained minister.
Yes, an ordained minister. I got ordained so I could marry my brother Chris and his beautiful bride Tracey. I remember getting his call. This is how it went:
Chris, "Tracey and I would like for you to officiate at our wedding."
Me, (Having been raised a Catholic). "I don't think I have the credentials for that."
Chris, "You do! You can get ordained online."
That was the beginning.....
Since then I have presided over quite a few weddings. Each has been a joy. It is such an authentic time. Especially in that moment the bride is walking up the aisle. No matter who the groom is, what his personality is.... it is always the same reaction.... pure love and excitement. Some of my grooms cry, some smile, others tear up and one actually gasped. But all of them are brought to their most authentic state and that is a pretty amazing thing to see. And every bride is a blushing bride.... no matter who she is, her age or experience. Every bride sees her groom and blushes. It is sweet and wonderful and renews your belief is Anticipation and Love.
That pendulum swings in the opposite direction too. You see, I have also been asked to lead funerals. My first one was very emotional. Not only because it was a funeral, but I knew the person. He was a personal friend of my parents' and mine, my whole life. I wrote the service, as I do for weddings, rehearsed it and felt very good about it. It celebrated his life, highlighted what he loved and who and had a few funny stories to balance the loss. I stood at the podium, started with The Lord's Prayer (my favorite way to get everyone in a room to feel connected) and started..... and then my legs started to shake. Have you ever experienced "leg shake"?? I was talking away and in the back of my mind thinking, "Oh No! What do I do?? OK.... tighen your legs, no, loosen your legs, squeeze your feet". Nothing worked. Only with time, did the shaking subside and I finished my service. No one knew about the shaking. I was complimented by so many that were there. I was proud of myself. It was a lesson learned.
Since then I have done 3 other funerals. One of them was just last Friday evening. It is different being on the other side of something like that. I become "Funeral Home Staff" in a way. I did know the gentleman who passed for this funeral too.... but I felt more at ease (no leg shake).
As I read I could see the family crying, tissues being passed along.... and then some smiles and eventually laughs.... I am a firm believer in ending on a good note. I walked out of that room to be greeted by my friend fireman with hugs and words of appreciation. This funeral, like my first, was for a retired firefighter.
While everyone was leaving the funeral home, we all talked about those who have passed. I think it is just what you do at the funeral home. Remember, tell stories, shake hands and give hugs freely. ** Which by the way is where hugs are given the most... weddings and funerals **
And then it happened.... Someone asked me what I liked doing better.... Funerals or Weddings??? He thought he knew what I was going to answer. But, do you know what I said??? The truth is I couldn't answer. I didn't know what I liked to do best. I was surprised that I couldn't answer the question. The truth is, they are equal. Equal in terms of how important they are. Equal in terms of the emotion involved and the work involved in preparing for them both. The responsibility factor is equal too. I commit to honoring people, taking something and someone whom they love and conveying how much they are loved. It is a big deal and I take it so seriously.
So this year, so far, I have 8 weddings and a funeral. And I am honored to be involved in all of them. Being immersed in all those feelings - good, bad and all, is overwelming in a way. You have no other choice but to put it all out there and take it all in.
This is my favorite job... of all my jobs... and I hope and pray that I can it forever.
Have a great day all,
xoxo
Julie
Yes, an ordained minister. I got ordained so I could marry my brother Chris and his beautiful bride Tracey. I remember getting his call. This is how it went:
Chris, "Tracey and I would like for you to officiate at our wedding."
Me, (Having been raised a Catholic). "I don't think I have the credentials for that."
Chris, "You do! You can get ordained online."
That was the beginning.....
Since then I have presided over quite a few weddings. Each has been a joy. It is such an authentic time. Especially in that moment the bride is walking up the aisle. No matter who the groom is, what his personality is.... it is always the same reaction.... pure love and excitement. Some of my grooms cry, some smile, others tear up and one actually gasped. But all of them are brought to their most authentic state and that is a pretty amazing thing to see. And every bride is a blushing bride.... no matter who she is, her age or experience. Every bride sees her groom and blushes. It is sweet and wonderful and renews your belief is Anticipation and Love.
That pendulum swings in the opposite direction too. You see, I have also been asked to lead funerals. My first one was very emotional. Not only because it was a funeral, but I knew the person. He was a personal friend of my parents' and mine, my whole life. I wrote the service, as I do for weddings, rehearsed it and felt very good about it. It celebrated his life, highlighted what he loved and who and had a few funny stories to balance the loss. I stood at the podium, started with The Lord's Prayer (my favorite way to get everyone in a room to feel connected) and started..... and then my legs started to shake. Have you ever experienced "leg shake"?? I was talking away and in the back of my mind thinking, "Oh No! What do I do?? OK.... tighen your legs, no, loosen your legs, squeeze your feet". Nothing worked. Only with time, did the shaking subside and I finished my service. No one knew about the shaking. I was complimented by so many that were there. I was proud of myself. It was a lesson learned.
Since then I have done 3 other funerals. One of them was just last Friday evening. It is different being on the other side of something like that. I become "Funeral Home Staff" in a way. I did know the gentleman who passed for this funeral too.... but I felt more at ease (no leg shake).
As I read I could see the family crying, tissues being passed along.... and then some smiles and eventually laughs.... I am a firm believer in ending on a good note. I walked out of that room to be greeted by my friend fireman with hugs and words of appreciation. This funeral, like my first, was for a retired firefighter.
While everyone was leaving the funeral home, we all talked about those who have passed. I think it is just what you do at the funeral home. Remember, tell stories, shake hands and give hugs freely. ** Which by the way is where hugs are given the most... weddings and funerals **
And then it happened.... Someone asked me what I liked doing better.... Funerals or Weddings??? He thought he knew what I was going to answer. But, do you know what I said??? The truth is I couldn't answer. I didn't know what I liked to do best. I was surprised that I couldn't answer the question. The truth is, they are equal. Equal in terms of how important they are. Equal in terms of the emotion involved and the work involved in preparing for them both. The responsibility factor is equal too. I commit to honoring people, taking something and someone whom they love and conveying how much they are loved. It is a big deal and I take it so seriously.
So this year, so far, I have 8 weddings and a funeral. And I am honored to be involved in all of them. Being immersed in all those feelings - good, bad and all, is overwelming in a way. You have no other choice but to put it all out there and take it all in.
This is my favorite job... of all my jobs... and I hope and pray that I can it forever.
Have a great day all,
xoxo
Julie
Monday, February 10, 2014
Local Business... Do you... really???
Disclaimer: I am a small business owner. I was also raised in a family that owns a small business and was involved in that business for most of my life. I am an educated consumer and a lover of fearless people. Being actively involved in my hometown I have a unique perspective, having the opportunity to be on "both sides of the fence". I have had corporate jobs, small businesses jobs and everything in between.
"They" say the trend to support Local Business is in full swing. I think about this ALL of the time... and this morning have organized all the thoughts in my head on this subject... I would like to share them with you...
The act of supporting local businesses is a VERB. It is, many times, an inconvenience, involves planning and forethought and takes extra time.
This doesn't sound like much fun, does it?? Ha Ha.... Well it is fun. There is the personal relationship you develop with the business owner that you would never get in the big box stores, the wonderful customer service you receive because the person serving you actually has some skin in the game.... let's see... .what else... There is pride in knowing that you are contributing to a person who had the guts to put it all on the line to realize a lifelong dream . Not to mention the fact that you can tell all of your friends that you Support Local Business, which makes you a hit at dinner parties and kids sporting events... and the PTO meetings.
Now, we are caught up in a world that moves so quickly. We budget our money, our time, food, coffee, activities, fun and everything else to make room for more... for what I don't know, but that is what we do. Soooooo, going out of our way to go to a small store, sometimes just doesn't fit in our schedule. When this happens we just hit the big place to save time... And understandably so..... I guess. Convenience is King.... Cash used to be... that is a whole other blog post. But, I digress.. Every time we do that... every time, our local merchants and service providers suffer a little and it makes them less likely to "make it". No Pressure, you understand... just stating the facts. How many times have you heard someone say (or you have said) "Oh No, they closed? You know I haven't been in there in forever. That is so sad". I know I am guilty of it....
Opening a small business is difficult. There are lots of permits to pay for and equipment to buy, inventory to stock, business loans to pay. The list is endless. Small businesses add jobs for local citizens, they revitalize downtowns and provide towns with ways to draw people in, are often times the most generous donators to local events.... thus helping to contribute to small town America... and small town America is what makes everything work. Sorry big city folk, but even all that you have was built on the back of a guy or a lady, with a dream that took that leap. Sometimes losing it all..... All.
I guess to wind this up, I hope that you all support your local businesses every time you have the opportunity. Go out of your way.... make some extra time.... make a new friend in a local business owner..... You will feel great, they will feel great and there is love, pride and hope in what you purchase...
Think about it.... and just do it....
Those are the thoughts in my head today...
xo
Julie
"They" say the trend to support Local Business is in full swing. I think about this ALL of the time... and this morning have organized all the thoughts in my head on this subject... I would like to share them with you...
The act of supporting local businesses is a VERB. It is, many times, an inconvenience, involves planning and forethought and takes extra time.
This doesn't sound like much fun, does it?? Ha Ha.... Well it is fun. There is the personal relationship you develop with the business owner that you would never get in the big box stores, the wonderful customer service you receive because the person serving you actually has some skin in the game.... let's see... .what else... There is pride in knowing that you are contributing to a person who had the guts to put it all on the line to realize a lifelong dream . Not to mention the fact that you can tell all of your friends that you Support Local Business, which makes you a hit at dinner parties and kids sporting events... and the PTO meetings.
Now, we are caught up in a world that moves so quickly. We budget our money, our time, food, coffee, activities, fun and everything else to make room for more... for what I don't know, but that is what we do. Soooooo, going out of our way to go to a small store, sometimes just doesn't fit in our schedule. When this happens we just hit the big place to save time... And understandably so..... I guess. Convenience is King.... Cash used to be... that is a whole other blog post. But, I digress.. Every time we do that... every time, our local merchants and service providers suffer a little and it makes them less likely to "make it". No Pressure, you understand... just stating the facts. How many times have you heard someone say (or you have said) "Oh No, they closed? You know I haven't been in there in forever. That is so sad". I know I am guilty of it....
Opening a small business is difficult. There are lots of permits to pay for and equipment to buy, inventory to stock, business loans to pay. The list is endless. Small businesses add jobs for local citizens, they revitalize downtowns and provide towns with ways to draw people in, are often times the most generous donators to local events.... thus helping to contribute to small town America... and small town America is what makes everything work. Sorry big city folk, but even all that you have was built on the back of a guy or a lady, with a dream that took that leap. Sometimes losing it all..... All.
I guess to wind this up, I hope that you all support your local businesses every time you have the opportunity. Go out of your way.... make some extra time.... make a new friend in a local business owner..... You will feel great, they will feel great and there is love, pride and hope in what you purchase...
Think about it.... and just do it....
Those are the thoughts in my head today...
xo
Julie
Monday, January 13, 2014
Taking the Leap
Well....here we sit at Denver Airport thinking... talking... figuring and doing the math. Our question, "how do we figure out a way to live here?"
This is common for us... we have been planning the move for ever it seems, and yet we board the plane with a sigh at the end of every trip.
Now, this isn't to say that we don't love our home, friends and Lake Villa, because we do. We are just ready for a new adventure. Is that bad?? No. Then why is it so hard to make the leap?
Fear is personal and public enemy #1, as far as I am concerned...and I have it. I believe Chris does too.
I am fearless when talking to other people.... I am very convincing. ..but when it comes to us....not so much.
All these thoughts swirl around in my head. Why don't we just go?
All these thoughts swirl around in my head. Why don't we just go?
You know I have always just done what I have always done
Because that is what I did. When I quit working for my Dad, it was for many reasons....there wasn't a lot to do, survival, I hated that my Mom wasn't there anymore. Everything was foreign there...sad...But then I started the coffee shop and it was better.... I had my own thing, and put some distance between me and the crazy was that became my Dad and his new life. **I love my Dad... just dont want to watch everything he does **..
Because that is what I did. When I quit working for my Dad, it was for many reasons....there wasn't a lot to do, survival, I hated that my Mom wasn't there anymore. Everything was foreign there...sad...But then I started the coffee shop and it was better.... I had my own thing, and put some distance between me and the crazy was that became my Dad and his new life. **I love my Dad... just dont want to watch everything he does **..
Anyway, that is how the shop came to be. I am proud of it....just need a change. Why does that feel funny? Guilt ridden, really.
I feel like there is more out there.... things I can only dream about, new things to look at and new people to connect with...art to see...maybe a book to write even! I am in need of inspiration.... who am I trying to convince anyway?? Maybe it feels like a betrayal. It feels like I am not thankful....oh I am and I tell God every time I think about it, which is often. Often.... I am so blessed to have done what I have.
My brother David was at my shop once.... he looked at me and said, "you are too big for this little town, Julie". Wow... I didn't know where to file that... I was flattered. I love that guy. I haven't stopped thinking about it since he said it.... once my professor told me I "had it". He looked into my eyes when he said it...yikes! "You have what it takes to make it Julie". I was so scared when he said it. Why???? I loved that he liked my art. I love my art.... but I feel like I am on the brink of something.... and just can't see it.... hence the need for a kick in the drawers.... a new perspective. Chris feels the same. This poor guy is so burned out. I feel sorry for him...he has been thru the ringer.... no other man in the world would have hung around and worked everyday being put thru what he has. I am blessed to have him...
So... I will keep praying and hoping and believing God will put doors in front of us that we will open. And that something happen for us to be able to shed the fear and excuses and make the leap!
I am so ready!
Xoxo
Monday, November 18, 2013
Give me a break..... #JustSayin
OK..... I consider myself a positive person.... on the whole, at least.
That beings said, having to be "on" all day at the coffee shop has been a challenge. Everyone has "bad" days....even Mary Poppins, right?
Life throws you some pretty high speed challenges... often in groups of 16 and, lets face it, it is hard to remain "Optimistic".... even for me.
And.... I have read all the posts on Facebook, seen all the pictures on Instagram accompanied by picture of perfectly dressed people staring off into the sunset... "Moving" I think to myself. BUT, some days, heck, even some weeks are shitty.
Now I don't believe that EVERY SINGLE THING THAT CROSSES YOUR PATH IS MEANT TO TEACH US SOME UNIVERSAL LESSON ABOUT THE TRUE MEANING FOR THE REASON WE ARE ALL HERE. I do believe, however, that some days are just tough and that is ok. Really, it is.... just ok.
No life is perfect. No person is perfect. Humans are humans and we all react differently to crisis's, however big or small. And even for me... These ethereal heavenly wisdom "quoters" are driving me nuts! NUTS! Can I have an "AMEN" anybody? Come on, it can't just be me!?!
My very dear friend just moved into a new rental house. She loves it, except that her toilet did nothing but spit and bubble for 4 days in a row. Needless to say, she lost her "cherublike" demeanor. During this particular challenge in her life she had several people ask her what was her lesson in all of this??? She had a few great answers to share with me (although I never asked her this particular question) as she was sprinting to the bathroom here at the coffee shop at 5:31am.
The truth is.... there was no lesson the Universe was trying to teach her by disabling her commode.....it was just a pain-in-the-butt (no pun intended, or maybe it was) deal that inconvenienced her alot. And her reaction was natural, healthy and just plain old OK.
In summation..... sometimes people can be sad, angry, pissed off and out of sorts. It is ok to FEEL. We don't need medicine, or a quote from the Good Book for everything that happens... maybe we just Need a Break..... or some time to think..... or maybe just a smile and a pat on the back... or maybe..... just maybe.... nothing at all.
#Justsayin'
This is the thought in my head today....
xo
julie
That beings said, having to be "on" all day at the coffee shop has been a challenge. Everyone has "bad" days....even Mary Poppins, right?
Life throws you some pretty high speed challenges... often in groups of 16 and, lets face it, it is hard to remain "Optimistic".... even for me.
And.... I have read all the posts on Facebook, seen all the pictures on Instagram accompanied by picture of perfectly dressed people staring off into the sunset... "Moving" I think to myself. BUT, some days, heck, even some weeks are shitty.
Now I don't believe that EVERY SINGLE THING THAT CROSSES YOUR PATH IS MEANT TO TEACH US SOME UNIVERSAL LESSON ABOUT THE TRUE MEANING FOR THE REASON WE ARE ALL HERE. I do believe, however, that some days are just tough and that is ok. Really, it is.... just ok.
No life is perfect. No person is perfect. Humans are humans and we all react differently to crisis's, however big or small. And even for me... These ethereal heavenly wisdom "quoters" are driving me nuts! NUTS! Can I have an "AMEN" anybody? Come on, it can't just be me!?!
My very dear friend just moved into a new rental house. She loves it, except that her toilet did nothing but spit and bubble for 4 days in a row. Needless to say, she lost her "cherublike" demeanor. During this particular challenge in her life she had several people ask her what was her lesson in all of this??? She had a few great answers to share with me (although I never asked her this particular question) as she was sprinting to the bathroom here at the coffee shop at 5:31am.
The truth is.... there was no lesson the Universe was trying to teach her by disabling her commode.....it was just a pain-in-the-butt (no pun intended, or maybe it was) deal that inconvenienced her alot. And her reaction was natural, healthy and just plain old OK.
In summation..... sometimes people can be sad, angry, pissed off and out of sorts. It is ok to FEEL. We don't need medicine, or a quote from the Good Book for everything that happens... maybe we just Need a Break..... or some time to think..... or maybe just a smile and a pat on the back... or maybe..... just maybe.... nothing at all.
#Justsayin'
This is the thought in my head today....
xo
julie
Wednesday, October 16, 2013
As much as their is of me, there never seems to be enough
I have a lot of "jobs". It has always been like this for me. I am, what I call, a 'juggler'. I juggle my coffee shop, my art business, art lessons, volunteering, being a member of 2 different boards, being a minister, a wife, a stepmom, a mom to my beloved dogs and... oh yes... being Julie.
Sometimes I fail... today is one of those days.
So I write today about priorities, saying Yes or No... and really getting the answer to the question.... What do I really WANT to do... or any of us (you) really.
Priorities.... I talk to all of my sweet wedding couples about them during their wedding ceremony. "Make your relationship a priority", I say... "Don't stretch yourselves too thin", I preach. Boy oh Boy.... If I only listened to my words. Because Believe Me I Sound AMAZING! But, alas, I think Chris and I are the worst at making our relationship and our family a priority. Doesn't make much sense, does it? I think this comes from a "Pleaser" marrying a "Pleaser". Anyway, the bottom line is, I don't know how to do it... Making Priorities means that something is going to get a big fat "No" and that doesn't make anyone feel good, now does it? Saying No to someone never feels good. Feelings get hurt, people are disappointed and let down... it is hard. But, as we get older we realize that we just can't do it all... I know I can't. I may be having a harder time with that fact than anyone.
Working in a retail environment makes it very hard to set priorities... I have a schedule of what I am going to do when... Ha! It is Futile. Sometimes it makes me sad..... You may or may not know that I am an Artist, a watercolorist. I love it. I love painting, I love sharing my paintings.... I love everything about it. I also love being a minister. Marrying couples is the most rewarding thing in the world. It is so authentic... they are so authentic... The moment the groom sees the bride coming up the aisle, the moment they realize they are making Vows to eachother... it is just amazing. And this says nothing about how a Best Man looks at his best friend....or how a Maid of Honor gently fluffs her girlfriends dress train.... it is so wonderful. I also teach kids art... it is another one of my favorite things to do.... they are so fun... full of life and eagerness. They are so proud to show their Moms and Dads... it is very gratifying for me. And sometimes, I even get "prizes" .. these little ones bring me works of art that they created at home just for me. I even got a T shirt, hand painted! I actually cried. These are my favorite things to do. I need to make them priorities. The coffee shop is fun, but it isn't my love... it is a vehicle to tell the world what else I do. That being said, it takes 99% of my time.
The question is, how do I change that? I don't know. I am working on it.
That was the failure today..... that made me write this blog.... I performed a wedding for a lovely couple and on the same day I held a service for their deceased parents. It was a wonderful day. The kids got married on what would have been the brides parent's anniversary. It was heartfelt and wonderful and the guests were happily surprised that they came to a memorial service that turned into a very happy wedding! Well, she called and asked if I would do a service when her and her brother buried the urns.... I said Yes... and we delighted to have the honor. It took me 2 weeks to get back to her... they had already buried the ashes. I am crushed. She is fine.... but it isn't my normal practice. I needed to make that event a Priority and I let other things come before it. I need to prioritize.... learn to say no and realize that I need to dedicate more of my time to those things that make me happy and feel full...
The end of this story is.... I am working on it......
Thanks for listening, these are the thoughts in my head today...
xoxo
Sometimes I fail... today is one of those days.
So I write today about priorities, saying Yes or No... and really getting the answer to the question.... What do I really WANT to do... or any of us (you) really.
Priorities.... I talk to all of my sweet wedding couples about them during their wedding ceremony. "Make your relationship a priority", I say... "Don't stretch yourselves too thin", I preach. Boy oh Boy.... If I only listened to my words. Because Believe Me I Sound AMAZING! But, alas, I think Chris and I are the worst at making our relationship and our family a priority. Doesn't make much sense, does it? I think this comes from a "Pleaser" marrying a "Pleaser". Anyway, the bottom line is, I don't know how to do it... Making Priorities means that something is going to get a big fat "No" and that doesn't make anyone feel good, now does it? Saying No to someone never feels good. Feelings get hurt, people are disappointed and let down... it is hard. But, as we get older we realize that we just can't do it all... I know I can't. I may be having a harder time with that fact than anyone.
Working in a retail environment makes it very hard to set priorities... I have a schedule of what I am going to do when... Ha! It is Futile. Sometimes it makes me sad..... You may or may not know that I am an Artist, a watercolorist. I love it. I love painting, I love sharing my paintings.... I love everything about it. I also love being a minister. Marrying couples is the most rewarding thing in the world. It is so authentic... they are so authentic... The moment the groom sees the bride coming up the aisle, the moment they realize they are making Vows to eachother... it is just amazing. And this says nothing about how a Best Man looks at his best friend....or how a Maid of Honor gently fluffs her girlfriends dress train.... it is so wonderful. I also teach kids art... it is another one of my favorite things to do.... they are so fun... full of life and eagerness. They are so proud to show their Moms and Dads... it is very gratifying for me. And sometimes, I even get "prizes" .. these little ones bring me works of art that they created at home just for me. I even got a T shirt, hand painted! I actually cried. These are my favorite things to do. I need to make them priorities. The coffee shop is fun, but it isn't my love... it is a vehicle to tell the world what else I do. That being said, it takes 99% of my time.
The question is, how do I change that? I don't know. I am working on it.
That was the failure today..... that made me write this blog.... I performed a wedding for a lovely couple and on the same day I held a service for their deceased parents. It was a wonderful day. The kids got married on what would have been the brides parent's anniversary. It was heartfelt and wonderful and the guests were happily surprised that they came to a memorial service that turned into a very happy wedding! Well, she called and asked if I would do a service when her and her brother buried the urns.... I said Yes... and we delighted to have the honor. It took me 2 weeks to get back to her... they had already buried the ashes. I am crushed. She is fine.... but it isn't my normal practice. I needed to make that event a Priority and I let other things come before it. I need to prioritize.... learn to say no and realize that I need to dedicate more of my time to those things that make me happy and feel full...
The end of this story is.... I am working on it......
Thanks for listening, these are the thoughts in my head today...
xoxo
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